Divorce usually involves a lot of contentious emotions, which can make co-parenting a lot more difficult. It is in the best interest of your child to maintain a respectful relationship with your ex, although being respectful is often easier said than done.
Fortunately, there are steps you can take to improve your co-parenting relationship. Here are a few effective strategies to employ.
Make your child a priority
When your ex-spouse causes conflict and stress in your life, remember that it is in your child’s best interest to have a loving relationship with you both. That means that you must treat your ex with respect at all times, even when they are not present. For instance, you should always speak of your former spouse respectfully in front of your child to avoid harming their relationship.
Maintain communication boundaries
You will need to communicate with your ex-spouse frequently to discuss important topics regarding the child you share. However, you do not need to indulge in other conversation topics, especially if they usually lead to conflict. Feel free to establish boundaries when it comes to these communication topics to ensure you can work through challenges in the most reasonable manner.
Treat your ex like a co-worker
Most people have experienced working with a co-worker they did not get along with. In this case, you can use this experience to model your relationship with your ex when it comes to child-rearing. Like a problem co-worker, treat your ex with respect but limit your contact with them. Do not let your former spouse annoy or aggravate you when interacting.
Despite the challenges of dealing with a difficult ex, taking the right approach will ultimately benefit your child. The right approach can also limit the stress you experience related to child-rearing issues.